So you have picked out your officiant; CONGRATULATIONS! That is one less vendor to worry about not having. Now that you have an Officiant, you can start talking about the details of the ceremony. Depending on your officiant’s preferences, you and your fiance may meet with him/her multiple times prior to your wedding or only once or twice closer to your wedding date.
Typically, Officiants will have a generic template they use in each ceremony. If you are looking for him/her to customize the ceremony, be sure to discuss what you want included in it.
- Unity Candle
- Sand Ceremony
- Any special religious traditions
- Personal stories
Ceremonies are usually 15-20 minutes, however it is important to discuss with your officiant how long you want your ceremony to be. Special traditions and add-ins, may make the ceremony longer. If you are having any special traditions or ceremonies, be sure to discuss with the officiant when you want them in your ceremony and who will be doing what parts.
Another important thing to discuss with your officiant are your vows. Do you plan to write your own vows? If so, be sure to let the officiant know to what extent you would like to write your own vows. Some couples may want to be asked the simple marriage vows as a question first and then they speak their own words. Maybe you want to exchange formal vows and use your own vows as part of your ring exchange.
Some other details that should be discussed are the following:
- Will you be exchanging rings? This seems like a strange question to ask, but it’s not. Some people get tattoos instead of rings. Sometimes brides will receive the ring, but the groom won’t because the groom works in an industry where he can’t wear a ring.
- Will you be having someone walk you down the aisle? If so, who? While for some brides this question may be easy, but for others not so much. There are some brides who walk themselves down the aisle and there is nothing wrong with that.
- Who will be participating in your ceremony? This helps the officiant know who should be in the ceremony and what to expect.
All these little questions and details help the officiant understand what you as a couple are looking for in your ceremony. Be sure to discuss timeline and language of the ceremony so it is exactly what you and your fiance are looking for.
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