Ryan and I were married in 2017. On a beautiful day in May. And it was quite the experience of being a bride myself. All the things I’d been telling my brides and grooms, Ryan and I learned and felt first hand, and now I’d like to share with you, my dear readers, three lessons I learned being a bride.
One: Put On A Mindset of Grace
Believe me; the emotions can run all over the place. Your wedding is one of the most important days of your life, if not the most important and your feelings are going to be your best friend and your worst enemy during the wedding planning and the week/day-of.
So have the headspace for lots of grace. Have grace for yourself and your significant other, for your family and friends, and all those beautiful vendors that make up your wedding team.
Two: There’s No Such Thing as Perfect-Not Even A Wedding
True, we wedding planners do a pretty good job of keeping hidden from you all the little mishaps that happen during your wedding. But the truth is, not a single one is perfect. There is always something that goes awry.
But that’s hard for us to swallow in this day and age of social media and ‘Pinterest perfect’ weddings.
Whether it’s family that runs off during cocktail hour when they’re supposed to be on standby for family photos or a father of the bride speech that is way too long (all things that happened during our wedding!) the day won’t go 100% as planned. It will be perfectly imperfect. And it will be your wedding full of gorgeous details and lots of memories. And lots of dancing, delicious food and drink, and beautiful florals!
The most important part of your wedding day is indeed the fact that you marry your best friend and that you get to celebrate with all of your family and friends.
Three: Focus Beyond The Wedding Day Itself
Make sure you are focusing just as much if not more on after the wedding day as you are on the wedding day It’s self.
Hopefully, by the time you said I do, you were pretty positive this is the one for you because you had spent so much time getting to know each other. You are getting to know each other by asking all the right and detailed questions. But guess what, there are a lot more questions for you to ask during the engagement so that you are ready to take marriage on full-heartedly.
Make sure that you’re talking about your faith convictions, how do you want to spend the holidays with your families, Chat about your 5-year, 10-year, 20-year goals. How do you like to spend your vacations, where you like to spend your vacations, and even how many kids you want. How are you going to raise them and what your kids’ names are going to be! OK, I kid on that part. #jk. But know that the wedding day, while it is the most important day of your life to date, the marriage itself is even more significant.
If you have any questions or concerns or comments, I’d love to hear from you. If you’re newly engaged, you’re planning your wedding and are looking for someone to help you design or manage the events around your wedding, and it would be an honor to be a part of your wedding team.